Not much without permanent alterations. A leather strip will help. A thin bent metal or hard plastic plate tucked under the strings would last longer.
Most of us just sort of accept that the round-over of the fretboard is going to notch if the builder did not install a piece of fretwire (like your aluminum rod) at the break-over. Your aluminum rod will notch under the pressure of steel strings.
Generally the cutting-in goes 'so far and no farther'. I have dulcimers that are decades old, and the cutting-in has not continued much more than the depth of the string diameter.
New dulcimers going out of tune after a day or so is quite common, and not just caused by the string cutting it. New strings take a day or two to stretch into the root tuning that you use.
updated by @ken-hulme: 10/14/18 09:39:21PM