Leading a Jam
General mountain dulcimer or music discussions
Actually, Terry, I just finished making a list on Excel (so I can re-alphabetize after new additions) and there are 225 songs on the list. Most of these I know how to play, some are ones that still need some work, and a dozen or so I've heard before but they're still pretty new to me.
I never take tab to a jam, but then I play mostly by ear. Even with a song I've never heard before, I "watch hands", figure out the major chords and strum those--or, at the least, if they're playing in D, just strum a D chord every time it seems to fit. That's how I started in jams when almost every song was new to me. Or you can mute the strings and strum the rhythm. I rarely sit out a tune, unless my hands are tired or I just want to listen and enjoy the others play for a bit. Very rarely do I end up in a jam where there are unfamiliar (to me!) complicated fiddle tunes being played at breakneck speed, changing keys with every other tune, so that it's hard to do more than tap my foot and nod my head.
Sometimes a song will be played that is unfamiliar to me and the person next to me has the tab and I look on theirs...but I'm not a very good sight reader of tab and find it difficult to keep up, unless I just play the first note in each measure (which is a perfectly reasonable thing to do, by the way). Also, if the tab is pretty complicated, you can just play the notes on the melody string.
I've been singing and learning new songs with my family, school, choirs, education classes, church, scouts, and dulcimer events for nearly 65 years, so it's not really surprising that there's such a long list that I know. I encourage everyone to start a list of songs they know, and to try to find them on their dulcimer. Even if all you can do is say: "Come Thou Fount of Every Blessing"....I think it begins on the 2nd fret", then that's a great start.
I don't think any of us, as children, set out to "memorize" Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star or Happy Birthday or Mary Had a Little Lamb, but we learned them and our mouths know how to move in such a way as to produce the vocal renditions of them...or we can hum them or whistle them, or pick them out on a piano or other instrument. The more tunes you can hum or whistle, the better you'll be at jams, I think!