experiment with the ukulele group
General mountain dulcimer or music discussions
Jon, a few other things on string gauges. If you go to too big, the string may not fit in the grooves on the bridge and nut, or it might make those grooves bigger, thus creating a buzz when you go back to lighter strings. You also want the tension to be roughly equal across all your strings. I would say in general that .015 is too heavy for a melody string. I like heavier strings than most, and I use .026 wound on the bass, .016 on the middle, and .013 on the melody.
However, there are some other techniques you can employ to reduce the "twang." I am not sure what you mean by " strumming at the top of the fretboard top bottom," but you will get a more mellow tone strumming clo ser to the 7th fret rather than toward the bridge, where the tone gets brighter.
You might also avoid playing open strings. I am not sure how you are playing with the uke folks, but if you are just strumming chords (which I would advise since that's what they do), then try to use three-finger chords. Not only will you get more mellow tone, but you can mute the strings with your left hand (keeping them on the strings but not pressing them against the fretboard). That will keep the strings from ringing out. For example, assuming you are tuned DAd, if the song calls for a G chord, don't play 3-1-0. Play 3-3-3 or 3-3-5. If it calls for a D chord, play 2-3-4 or 4-5-7. If it calls for a Bm, don't play 2-1-0, play 2-3-5 or 5-5-7. I will stop with the examples now, but you get the point.
And what are you doing with your right hand? You might experiment with picks made of different material. In a different discussion here a couple of weeks ago, some people mentioned playing with leather picks. I would personally not want to use a leather pick because it would make playing single notes more difficult, but it would definitely produce a softer tone. And you might strum with just your bare fingers. If you strum out with your thumb and in with your index finger, I'm sure you would get a softer tone (just make sure no nails are involved).
And maybe this seems too obvious, but strum softer.
P.S. I love the song Lazy Bones. I think I first heard it from Leon Redbone. "Lazy bones, sleeping in the sun./How d'ya expect to get your day's work done?"
updated by @dusty: 10/09/26 07:25:07PM

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