The "I have small hands" idea
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It's about time someone made this statement. I could not agree more with Rob and John. First, no one has ever said, "I have long fingers, making the dulcimer easty to play!" On the contrary, playing a musical instrument is a challenge, and rather than convince one another that we have some physical limitation that makes that challenger more . . . er . . . uh challenging, we should encourage one another to accept the challenge and patiently overcome it.
Yes, be patient. As John says, take the time to discover what your comfort zone is, but at the same time realize the the more you play the stronger the muscles in your finger will be and the easier some of those stretches will be. Over time, fingerings that seemed impossible will become possible, then comfortable, and then easy as pie!
And believe me, for every person who has trouble stretching into a 1-2-4 chord, there is someone having trouble scrunching into a 9-10-9 chord. Dulcimers with long VSLs have their challenges, but so do those with short VSLs. And the length of the VSL is not the only factor that affects comfort of playing. I find some fretboards to be too narrow or two wide, although my preference depends on whether I'm fingerpicking or flatpicking. And more than anything, low action makes left-hand fingering so much easier. Low action enables me to stretch my fingers more because less strength is required to depress a string.
Rather than decide that you have some physical limitation that won't allow you to play dulcimers of certain designs, take the time to play a while, to develop the strength and finger independence good playing requires. Who knows? You might find not only that you can handle longer VSLs, but that you like the deeper tone, extra volume, and increased sustain such instruments bring.